Has your romantic relationship broken down and you’re not ready to give up on your love? Learn how to manifest your ex back fast, according to the Law of Attraction (LoA).
How to Manifest Your Ex Back Fast
The breakdown of a loving relationship can be incredibly hard, consuming you entirely to the the exclusion of all else in your life.
But according to the principle of manifestation, it doesn’t have to be this way. Law of Attraction states that like attracts like:
Positive emotions equal positive energy, and your energy creates your reality.
Manifestation is the process of actively making your desires into your reality, using the power of LoA.
And just like any laws of the Universe, it is a constant – one which you can take advantage of!
If you’re struggling to get over your ex and would rather have them back than let them go for good, the good news is that the five step guide set out below may be just what you’re looking for.
Just before we come to the exact sequence of steps you’ll need to take, let’s first take a closer look at what manifestation is and how it works.
What is Manifestation?
Manifestation is the process of actively making your desires into your reality, using the power of LoA.
The theory goes that every person operates at a vibrational frequency. Different frequencies have different significance attached to them, with higher frequencies representing positive energy and therefore being more desirable.
According to the Law of Attraction, the places, people, and experiences the Universe send to us will match whatever energy we send out into the world.
Thus, operating at a high vibrational energy is beneficial for achieving good things and positive outcomes.
Your intentions – the why behind your desire(s) – are critical to the success of your manifestation.
With that in mind, raising your energy to a high vibration is the ultimate goal for attracting your desire, in this case manifesting your ex back.
5 Steps to Manifesting Your Ex Back Fast, According to the Law of Attraction
What’s the best way to manifest your ex back? Here are the exact steps you need to take to get your ex back using LoA:
- Clearly clarify your intentions.
- Eliminate limiting beliefs.
- Use powerful positive affirmations.
- Visualise your desired outcome.
- Put your faith in the Universe.
Now let’s look at each step in more detail…
1. Clarify Your Intention
The first step to manifesting your ex back – fast – is to think about your specific desires and your reasons for them.
It’s important to ensure that your reasons for wanting your ex back are rooted in positive energy.
Your intentions – the why behind your desire(s) – are critical to the success of your manifestation and whether you attract positive negative experiences.
Why? Because as we learned above, a positive attitude and higher frequency of energy is linked to more positive outcomes, and so you’ll want to set your intention accordingly.
In other words, it’s important to ensure that your reasons for wanting your ex back are rooted in positive, not negative energy.
If your reason is to eliminate feelings of loneliness or because you’re jealous of the attention they’re showing to someone new, then your manifestation is unlikely to work because these are intentions are essentially negative energy.
Instead, you’ll want to reframe, clarifying your intentions as something more positive.
Make it as easy as possible for the universe to respond favourably!
For example:
- You may feel that life was more colourful and joyful with them around.
- Or you may want to rekindle a relationship with your best friend and love of your life.
Once you’ve set positive intentions around why you want this specific person back in your life, you must then make them clear to the universe.
Gaining clarity helps you, and also helps the universe, too. Unclear messages to the universe may manifest unclear or negative results.
Make it as easy as possible for the universe to respond favourably!
2. Eliminate Limiting Beliefs
Limiting beliefs hide in the subconscious mind.
When it comes to the manifestation process, an important thing that can hinder your success is any limiting beliefs.
Limiting beliefs are the negative beliefs you’ve come to accept as truth.
They get in your way of manifesting because they drag your energy into a low vibrational state, preventing you from operating at and attracting the high vibration of your desires.
Limiting beliefs are so harmful because you may not even consciously recognise that they exist. They hide in the subconscious mind, negatively influencing your confidence and self-esteem – but you can draw them out and extinguish them.
The next step is to overcome those limiting beliefs.
The first thing to do is identify them. Common limiting beliefs around an ex may include:
- S/he no longer loves me.
- I am not worthy of being with him/her.
- I”m useless at relationships.
- I’ve sabotaged our love.
- I’ll never find love again.
- S/he has moved on already.
The next step is to overcome those limiting beliefs and there are a couple of different ways to do so, either by journaling or with the use of positive affirmations.
Affirmations are so important.
Journaling
Writing is powerful by itself, helping to embed ideas1 so that you are more likely to believe them.
With that in mind, try putting your limiting beliefs down on paper, and then writing out a sentence which challenges that belief. Here are two examples…
Limiting belief:
I’ve sabotaged our love.
Reframe to:
I made a mistake, which is human. S/he has also made mistakes. Part of love is accepting each other’s flaws. I can apologise and forgive and we can find a way forward.
Limiting belief:
I’ll never find love again.
Reframe to:
There are millions of people in the world and millions of opportunities for love. If I put myself out there it’s inevitable that I will find love in time.
Positive Affirmations
Affirmations are so important in this five step process that I’m giving their own entire heading…
3. Use Affirmations
An affirmation is a positive statement in the present tense, used to interrupt thought patterns which do not serve us.
Not only are affirmations super helpful for helping to challenge and eliminate negative beliefs as demonstrated above, they’re also truly valuable in their own right.
You’ll want to create powerful affirmations specific to your ex.
The theory behind affirmations is that they literally rewire your brain, crushing those negative thoughts and replacing them with positive thoughts instead.
Unsure where to start with writing your own affirmations? Why not try reciting some of the following examples?
- I am worthy of receiving love.
- My heart is open and ready for love.
- I trust in the Universe to bring me the love I deserve.
- I am attracting a loving relationship into my life.
- My intuition will guide me to my soulmate.
Subliminal messages which are also said to work well.
While the above examples are perfect for all things related to love, for the purposes of this post, you’ll want to create powerful affirmations specific to manifesting your ex back into your life.
Here are some you could use:
- I am so thankful to be back together with my ex and express gratitude on a daily basis.
- My ex has returned to my life at the perfect time.
- I am deserving of my ex’s love and a relationship with him/her.
- We belong together and are so happy to be back together.
- I value my ex and our new and relationship together, which is better than ever.
Once you’re feeling more confident, you can try creating your own. Alternatively, consider recording subliminal messages which are also said to work well. A good time to play these is while you sleep, so that you supposedly wake up with good feelings about your situation.
Meditation is also an excellent strategy.
4. Visualise Your Desire As a Reality
This is a really important step of manifestation, because as we established earlier:
You attract the same energy that you put out into the world.
The very best manifesting results are said to occur when we embody the exact energy of our goal.
Therefore, visualising the outcome we desire to the point that we actually believe and crucially feel the same energy as though it were a reality, is hugely advantageous.
A great way to practice visualisation is by using a vision board. Alternatively, meditation is also an excellent strategy.
Either way, you’ll want to focus on attaining the high vibe energy associated with the feelings of a reunion.
Visualise your desired outcome becoming a reality.
Try this activity:
- Create a comfortable environment in a quiet place. Feel free to use relaxing music and candles if you wish.
- Sit comfortably, in a position that you can maintain for a while without needing to shift around.
- Close your eyes and centre yourself, by tensing and then relaxing all of your muscles. Start at your toes, scrunching and then unfurling them, work your way up your legs and trunk, your shoulders, and finally screw up and then release all tension in your face.
- Focus on your breathing until you feel completely at ease. Take deep breaths, exhaling slowly as you relax.
- Now think about your ex. Use all of your senses so you can imagine being with them in the present moment. Where are you? What can you smell? How is his/her hair? What clothes is s/he wearing? What about their scent?
- Try to breathe life into the picture you create, so that you’re able to convince yourself of its realness.
- Imagine the conversation you’d have, what you’d each say, and how you’d repair your previous relationship.
- Visualise your desired outcome becoming a reality.
The exercise is supposed to have worked when you feel less hope and more gratitude and relief because you have got to the point of believing.
5. Put Your Trust in the Universe
The final step for manifesting your ex girlfriend or boyfriend back is to place your faith in the Universe and let it do its thing, by stepping back from your desire.
Trust in the Universe to have your back.
This last step is probably the most difficult of the entire process, because it may feel counterintuitive. But according to LoA it’s critical in order to avoid negative outcomes. Here’s the theory…
Once you’ve successfully followed through the other steps, becoming fixated on the result at this stage can negate your hard work and effort to this point.
Obsessing over your ex and your manifestation, wondering whether or when it will work is low vibe energy – not what you want to receive from the Universe in order to manifest your goal!
Be patient, and believe in your manifestation.
Besides which, being needy or desperate is also not attractive on a human level. So manifesting aside, the best thing you can do is give your ex space and show them that you’ve let go.
Trust in the Universe to have your back and that Its plan exceed your own. Be patient, and believe in your manifestation.
Does Manifesting Your Ex Work?
One important last thing to mention is the limitations of manifestation in general.
The principles of manifesting are clear that there are a few situations when manifestation won’t work:
- Free will – If your ex is set against rekindling your past relationship, the Universe cannot go against their wishes.
- Manifesting the wrong thing – If your goal or desire is the wrong thing for you, again, the Universe’s plan will reflect this, bringing what is right for you instead.
Either of the above scenarios will ultimately be interpreted as coming from a place of low vibrational energy, and therefore the manifestation will not be successful.
What Does the Science Say?
By now you should have a good idea of how to manifest love according to the Law of Attraction – but does it actually work?
Appealing though the idea is, there’s no evidence that manifestation works.
We have to assume that when a relationship breaks down it’s for a valid reason.
In fact, those caveats above are, essentially, a great solution for explaining away those situations when manifestation does not work. Any other times manifestation techniques appear to lead to success stories are likely mere coincidence.
Ethically speaking, the entire concept of manifesting your ex back is questionable at best.
Manifesting is touted as a powerful tool, yet we have to assume that when a relationship breaks down it’s for a valid reason in the first place. If a partnership has not worked on those underlying issues together, then nothing will change going forward.
Additionally, the guidelines for this specific practice are potentially harmful, feeding into and arguably promoting infatuation.
Remaining feelings of love for an ex are negatively associated with recovery from a breakup, and therefore reducing those feelings may have value in aiding recovery2.
Extrapolating from the above then, actively encouraging exercises which deepen or maintain love feelings after a breakup will prolong recovery and may even lead to limerence. Considering that limerence is reinforced via rituals3, in the same way as OCD, this is particularly concerning.
Ultimately, the best course of action to rekindle a healthy relationship is always going to be through open and honest communication, as opposed to esoteric or occult practices.
So what could you do instead?
My advice would be to reach out to your ex for a frank conversation if they’re open to that, with a view to really working through your problems and resulting negative emotions together. This is likely the only way to build a better relationship.
And if your ex is disinclined? It may be time to accept that you are not soul mates after all and begin the challenge of moving on so you have space in your life for a new relationship in due course.
That might look like a no-contact period including a text message and social media break until you’re both ready to be just friends. If friendship doesn’t feel like a realistic option, implementing a no contact rule may be a wiser move.
Whether with your ex, in a different relationship with a new partner – or even by spending time alone working on self love, I wish you luck in finding happiness.
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